Personal development takes an awful lot of time and not something you can achieve overnight. You also need tons of patience because bailing out in the middle of the process is something you will regret later on.
I’m telling you, it’s not that easy and you will encounter a lot of hurdles along the way. Discovering one’s self is a long journey more so if you have a lot of things to change for a better future. But, you need to take on this challenge for your sake and your family’s.
Here are a few things to ponder before you can make that first step to recovery:
- Acknowledge issues and problems – Some of us are hiding behind a curtain and don’t want to go out and face reality. A bad habit indeed and you need to break it. Realizing your problems is one step and acknowledging them is another. You know in your mind that you have big issues but then telling yourself that there’s no big deal is actually non-admittance of their existence. You simply cannot move on if you think and feel like this.
- Take the honesty test – You have to or else you’ll drown yourself in deception. Think about this – you are tricking yourself into believing that your problems will be solved on their own. That’s not good because eventually, your problems will come running back at you. So, to be able to move on to the next step – admit it, be honest to yourself and face it.
- Channel your attention – When you have finally accepted the fact that there are changes to be made and you are willing to make amends, then it’s time to buckle down and attend to them one at a time. But, make sure you have already identified each issue before resolving them otherwise, you’re back to square one.
- Draft a plan and implement them – It’s always nice to list down a plan for each challenge you will tackle. This way, you won’t lose your focus and will be able to deal with the issues with a better grasp. These will be tedious tasks so you need to prepare for the battle.
- Ask for support – Battling a “monster in your closet” is always self-draining and sometimes you will lose your focus. Therefore, before carrying on a task, try and ask your family and friends for any support they can give. You need this and sometimes, you can’t do it all alone. It will be a roller-coaster ride with lots of ups and downs.
All of us have problems at one time or the other. But, what separates us is our courage to deal with issues and on how we solve them. Keep in mind, you are not the only one experiencing this, there are many others out there. Who knows, their problems might be a lot bigger than yours, so think of it as you being luckier or more blessed.
Always be positive, it will help a lot in times when you need it most. Don’t lose hope, for hope is always there for us to grab and hold on. Lastly, when all your worries are gone, give yourself a pat in the back, better yet – a big hug, because you won the battle.
Don’t forget to relax and enjoy the rest of your life. Make sure to do everything now in accordance to what is righteous. Be with your family and bond with them, say play music together and give back to others like buy pedal board for your kid. Smile!
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Also – set expectations low and don’t try to do too much!
This is something that I have been struggling with. I have become mom and stopped there. I need to deal with a lot of issues going on in my life instead of ignoring them. It is easy to critique others but hard to do it to yourself. Thank you for sharing this information!
Same here, Amanda. I got stuck but luckily got out of the shell and faced my issues.
Support is the biggest thing.
I love this post! So well spoken & well thought-out!
Thanks, Elle. 🙂
Thankyou for this blog it’s so good to see such awesome support on the internet!!
I agree – I think – just from my own experience anyway – that motherhood is probably the toughest. If you work, than can sort of be like a vacation, but then when you get home you can’t relax – you have to make sure all the kids do their homework, get baths, get feed and take care of them before you can get what you need to get done. It is hard, but so far it has been good.
It would be the day when I get some alone time and spend the whole day by myself. But then, I’d be thinking about the kids and the house and everything else. So, my mind will be in a sense left at home while my body is being pampered in the spa, lol. Thanks Alison!
great post..thanks
awesome post..i stuggle too.
The hardest thing to do is to work on oneself. It took me years to finally get to a place where I didn’t blow up at every little thing. I’ve learned that there’s really no use in getting bent out of shape about stuff, that I was the only one feeling the effects of my anger. Now as they say “I don’t sweat the small things in life”. I was worth working on. I like myself so much more now then I did. Good luck!
I know staying positive works and when one loses being positive, the faster you return to that state the faster things turn back around. Loved the article.
Having a great support system in place is the first step to help yourself. You need to realize your problem and work slowly with the help of others to achieve your goals.
Great post, I agree. Lower expectations helps!
thank you for the great advice, i will be using it!
Your welcome! You write so well, I really loved this post so much! Totally could identify!
Thanks, Elle! That means so much 🙂
I really needed to read this. Thanks for the review 🙂
Im working on the stay positive even in negative situations all around being a happier person.
thanks for sharing this
i am dealing w/ just such a situation in my own life right now…and remaining true to myself, my children and my values must come first. thank you for the reminder!
And never ever blame anyone for the bad decisions we’ve made. Man up, learn from the mistakes, grow and move on.
“You can’t make the same mistake twice. The second time you make it it’s no longer a mistake, it’s a choice.”
You are right the family comes first and then you have to find away to have time to relax and enjoy yourself.I enjoyed motherhood so much that I cannot believe how fast it was all over.I wish I could go back and do it again.They were by far the best years of my life.
I love this site and this blog! Thank you for all the helpful information!
Great post! I have many things that I struggle with. I really need to get real with myself and start concentrating on fixing the “wrongs” in my life. Thank you
Very inspiring post!
Simple yet deep
That honesty test is one of the hardest things for a person to take. Who wants to admit that they have things that they need to work on, whether it be their attitude, weight or just their self image. But once they (cough), I took that honesty test, I have really turned my health around and my outlook on life has really changed.
this is something I really need to tell myself more and think about! thanks for the insight!
I have needed help in the past and wanted to start giving something back, so now I volunteer at a store for the needy. It makes me feel happy to help others.
Wow, this is such a positive post. I really needed to read something like this as there are some things getting me down. I love how you shared wonderful tips.
Thank you!
ooo how cool is the peddle board
I enjoyed reading this, Thanks.
I like the ideas here. I love the start of a journey but don’t stick to it longer than a month. I’m inspired to push myself harder!
Very good ideas and I love it. Self development is a very important part to obtain happiness.
These are great suggestions for all o f us. I think most of us have a little soul searching to do. Thank you